Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Paperback)
“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.” —Gwyneth Paltrow
Marital strife and divorce can be your chance to profoundly transform yourself, your mindset and your relationship with a more harmonious and steady vision.
While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart.
What if you emerged from your divorce stronger and more resilient than ever before? Better Apart is the first book to apply the life-changing, healing wisdom of meditation and yoga, combined with practical advice, to help anyone going through the painful and seemingly intractable realities of divorce.
Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower are warm and caring guides who can help you compassionately part from your partner. Whether your separation is amicable, or your ex is combative, Better Apart can help you find peace, calm, and hope. Blending practical advice from a legal perspective together with spiritual wisdom, Gabrielle and Elena are experts and realists who have created a simple five-step process that uses original meditations, perspective-shifting exercises, and fresh suggestions to help navigate the common legal and emotional pitfalls of divorce. Don’t worry if you’ve never tried yoga or mediation; Gabrielle’s insight buttressed by Elena’s practices and exercises are accessible for all. Together, they show you how to meaningfully shift your mindset and to move forward though any—or all—parts of this emotionally fraught process.
Better Apart radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life.
Gabrielle Hartley served as co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Week Committee and is a member of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation, the Hampshire Bar Association, and the New York Bar Association family law section. Gabrielle’s works and contributions are available across media channels including the Woolfer and Thrive Global, and she has been quoted as an expert on television, podcasts, and in the New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, and New York Post. She divides her time between NYC and Northampton, Massachusetts, where she lives with her husband and three sons. Learn more about Gabrielle’s online services including mediation, strategic legal consulting, representation, and the Better Apart Professional method for divorce practitioners at gabriellehartley.com.
Elena Brower is a mother, teacher, author, and speaker who has taught yoga and meditation since 1999. She is the bestselling author of Practice You: A Journal, and her first book, Art of Attention, has been translated into six languages. Elena has contributed to Yoga Journal, Huffington Post, Yoga International, MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Positively Positive, and other outlets. Practice with Elena on elenabrower.com.
“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.” — Gwyneth Paltrow, New York Times Bestselling Author and Founder of GOOP
“Addressing the practical, emotional, and spiritual, Better Apart is a major paradigm shifter. As a child of divorce, the lessons within this book resonated deeply with me and I’m hopeful for the future of separating families who’ll have access to this wisdom.”
— Kate Northrup, bestselling author of Money: A Love Story
“By encouraging parents to forget perfection and establish clear rules and workable schedules, this book demonstrates that some families can truly be better apart.” — Dr. Sharon Saline, clinical psychologist and author of What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life
“Gabrielle and Elena provide a warm and thoughtful approach to divorce that includes both legal wisdom and healthy psychological principles. Their discussion of custody and co-parenting leads you on the path toward a calmer and happier future for you and your children.” — Robyn Landow, PhD, psychologist and parenting coordinator
"Gabrielle inspires and educates with a practical, accessible approach, empowering readers to think beyond blame, shame and anger, and instead focus on personal growth, financial integrity and a peaceful reorganization of the family unit. This book is a must read for those looking for a roadmap to a better, happier, healthier life Post-divorce." — Marcelle Kott, Esq., Partner, Berger Schatz, Chicago, IL
“Better Apart is my top recommendation for anyone who is wrestling with the “divorce” question but feeling shame or fear around it. Gabrielle sets out a do-able approach to not just survive divorce - but thrive emotionally, financially and spiritually in life after separation. Her thoughtful but practical book lays out a roadmap for using “crisis” as a unique opportunity for mindful living and personal growth. An amicable divorce truly is possible and Gabrielle lays out the steps to get there without sacrificing your well-being." — Erin Levine, Esq. CFLS, CEO of Hello Divorce and Levine Family Law Group